Genesis 3:11-19 – The Blame Game of Man vs The Beautiful Grace of God

Hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat?   12 And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest [to be] with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat. 13 And the LORD God said unto the woman, What [is] this [that] thou hast done? And the woman said, The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat

God asked Adam a simple question and He was looking for a simple answer.  God didn’t need to know what Adam had done, or where Adam was, because He knew full well that Adam had sinned and that he was now doomed to death.

His questions were formed so that Adam would be able to confess and be freed from the sin that he had committed……but that is not what happened.

Adam played the game that we all know too well….the blame game.

Adam blamed Eve, and in a sense God, and Eve, following suite passed the buck along.

I have heard it said that we are either about to go through, just finished going through, or in trouble all the time.

It is not the situation that we are in; it is our attitude that matter, whether it is sin that caused it or just life in general.

Do you pass the blame or blame God when things are bad?

Do you blame everyone else but yourself when trouble comes!

Confession is the answer because it keeps the situation or sin in its proper perspective.

God doesn’t want us to stew and grow stale in our sin and this will keep it from creating a hold on our lives.

1John 1:9

Confess and the situation or the sin won’t cause you to grow stagnant or stale for the Lord.

Confess to each other

James 5:16

Confession keeps us content and fully trusting in the Father in whatever comes our way.

Genesis 3:14-19

14 And the LORD God said unto the serpent, Because thou hast done this, thou [art] cursed above all cattle, and above every beast of the field; upon thy belly shalt thou go, and dust shalt thou eat all the days of thy life: 15 And I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel.  

16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire [shall be] to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.  

 17 And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed [is] the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat [of] it all the days of thy life;18 Thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field;19 In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou [art], and unto dust shalt thou return.  



We are now introduced to the redemptive attributes of God and we see His holiness as He deals with sin

God pronounces a five-fold judgment sentence


Upon the serpent

Genesis 3:17

God curses the serpent, Satan, and the soil, but not mankind.  Now this creature would have to crawl on the ground.

Mankind would also now have great hatred for the serpent.


Upon the woman

Genesis 3:16

She would have great labor in childrearing and her desire would be to her husband.

The word desire can also mean “an attempt to ursurp or control”

In this verse we see the tragedy of sin and the triumph of a promised Savior.


Upon the man

He would have to work to support his family and this work would be hard because the ground was now cursed because of his sin.



What this means is that now Adam’s headship won’t come as easily as before.  The woman will have to fight an urge to become a leader over her husband.  It could also point to needs.

The wife wants her husband to come home and spend time with the family.  She sees this as being supportive emotionally.

The husband just needs to work one more hour of overtime to help pay some extra bills.  He sees this as being supportive in every way because it is taking care of his family.

Wives, tell your husband’s what you need.  Tell them what you are feeling.

Husbands, tell your wives what you are feeling and what you need.

Ephesians 5:22-30

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body.24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in everything.25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

“Wives, submit yourselves” is about as far as some men go into this verse and they fail to see the rest of it.

Yes wives are to submit to the headship of her man but I think man has a greater challenge.

“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church.”

That love means giving yourself completely, and wholly in caring for every need of your wife, to the point of dying for her.

What couples don’t realize is that their spouse DOES NOT know what you are thinking, and the answer to all problems within the family is communication through love and submission to each other and to the Lord; growing to Him and together in the process.

Do this and headship won’t ever be an issue


About Clint Rodgers

I am a father of 2 wonderful children and the husband of a beautiful woman who has taught me more about compassion for goofballs than I could have ever learned. I have know Jesus for many years but about 5 years ago I truly met Him and now I do my best to follow Him as I walk in this world
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